The biggest “aha” moment I have had in life is when I learned that no matter what my goals were, I had to learn how to surrender the results. Surrender is to cease resistance to an enemy or opponent and submit to their authority. The idea of giving up your power to an enemy or opponent is terrifying. But the kind of surrendering that I am referencing in this blog, is really the act of “giving up” or “handing over” your intentions to something bigger and more powerful than yourself. That something more powerful is often seen as God/ the Universe. And whether you believe in God or not; understanding that there is always a unknown factor in life, is critical to not being restless all the time.
I was the prime example of someone who worried about everything. I worried about a marriage I had yet to be apart of, money I desired so much, and the fictional things that could come in and ruin the life I greatly desired. I had goals that I saw myself accomplishing. Instead of taking these goals step by step and allowing that “X factor” in life to get me there, I become discouraged when things did not go the way I imagined. This cycle of dreaming actually never got me to achieve my goals, simply because I stood in my own way.
It is common in the Christian faith to lean on God. Many pray for what they need. Then they implement faith. Trust that their prayers will be answered. But because I was too impatient for such a thing, My prayers were never answered. My ego led me to believe all kinds of things but the obvious. I didn’t know how to surrender. I didn’t have faith that the universe was working in my favor. I was caught up on the details of life and not the actuality of it.
I have since learned the importance of faith and surrender. And I did this by trial and error. I stop striving to “make” things happen in my life. Instead I let go of controlling the outcome. If I wanted something I went after it, did the steps it took to make it happen, then I allowed the fruit of my labor to come into fruition. What is the point of accomplishing a goal if you don’t have confidence in your results? I began to realize that I have little control over what happens around me. I no longer wanted to struggle with how I thought events should occur in my life. There is so much around us we do not have power of. This brings peace in knowing you can only worry about what you have direct influence over.
I also began to live in the present, instead of an imaginary future. I began to be thankful for what was in front of me. The past is nothing I can change, the future is uncertain, staying focus on the moments of the present helps me to surrender to the greater blessings in my life.
“To stay present in everyday life, it helps to be deeply rooted within yourself; otherwise, the mind, which has incredible momentum, will drag you along like a wild river” – Eckhart Tolle
We all struggle to let go of what we expect out of our lives. But sometimes the best things will come to pass when we allow the organic flow of life to move.