A relationship can either be bliss or wrapped in confusion. The idea of opening yourself up to someone can be difficult especially if you don’t know how they feel about you. This lack of clarity can cause you to act in a way that make or break the connection. Here are 8 ways to know things are headed to love.
You guys talk about the future. One of the biggest signs that someone is taking you seriously is if they bring up the future. Whether it is going on trips together, celebrating the holidays, or even talking about marriage; if one is making the effort to include you in future plans it is a good sign.
They are honest with you. Another sign that someone is serious about your relationship is their willingness to be open and honest. When someone shares their true feelings and desires, is forthright about their past, and takes every opportunity to confide in you with personal topics and issues they are showing you how much they trust you. Trust builds intimacy which is exactly what love needs to survive.
They listen to you. Listening to your partner is a key ingredient to a healthy and happy relationship. When one chooses to be present with you, they are showing you what is important to them. There are so many distractions in our everyday life, if someone is choosing to be with you over looking at Instagram, they are clearly showing you that you play a central role in their life.
They respect you. How someone treats you is a clear indicator of the way they feel about you. If your significant other puts you down, treats you without any consideration, never compromises, is controlling, and does not see you as an equal then they are definitely not respecting you. If you don’t have respect for something, you tend not to be serious about it. Although some people see respect in different ways, there are clear signs of what it is not.
They introduce you to family and friends. Meeting people’s family and friends is a huge barometer for how seriously they are taking your relationship. Although there are some people who are open enough to introduce a casual hook up to their family, most people see it has a huge step. They are telling not only you but the people closest to them how serious things are getting.
All they want to do is make you happy. A common sign that things are getting serious is how dedicated someone is to making you happy whenever possible. For instance, if they take the time to surprise you with gifts, do favors, help you out in anyway that they can, they are actively building a connection. When someone makes your happiness their top priority they will create opportunities to show you that they care. Often times random acts of kindness are not random at all but an chance to signify that they have your well-being in mind.
They invite you into their world. Whether it is giving you the passwords to their social media accounts, a key to their apartment, or they want their friends to be your friends; an invitation to these things is a figurative way of “letting you in”. This can build trust and closeness. It also can let you know how much they see you as apart of their life.
They say “I love you.” Not every person who says “I love you” means it. Some people say it to appease a lover or a friend. But those three words, coupled by actions is the winning combination. Not only will someone who loves you tell you, but they will show you. Early morning messages, checking up on you randomly just to see how you are doing, they go out of their way to make your life easier, they light up when you are in their presence, they ask your opinion, they protect you, and finally they share the things that matter most to them. Actions do speak louder than words but words are like icing on the cake.
Once you fall in love, you start to care about the other person just as much as you care about yourself. The journey to love can be fraught with many obstacles but the expressions of love are as clear as day.