Having to make decisions can feel paralyzing. It’s easier to convince yourself to allow the flow of life to choose an outcome for you, especially when having to make a big decision. I have faced this all too many times. My desire to be perfect or everything going as planned overshadowing the necessity to make a choice quickly. Thus forcing me to not move at all. Sometimes not moving seems like the best option. This paralysis can seep into small decisions. Consequently our lives begin moving into limbo. Too many of us are living in the in-between. The in-between is defined as the intermediate, the middle. Living in the in-between is another way of saying to be living in the middle of what is happening now, without focusing on a destination or achievement.
Sure it can be fun to be free spirited with no immediate need for direction. But when you find yourself living between two worlds without a foundation, you end up feeling exhausted. Here are six ways to become more decisive.
Ask yourself what you really want for yourself? Knowing what you want is the biggest component to becoming more decisive. Anytime you face an obstacle, you can remind yourself of the overall objective. Being aware of what aligns with your goals allows you to see what is worth your time and what is not.
Address your fears. We are often indecisive because we fear all the negative outcomes that could or could not transpire based on our decision. Some of your fears will be justified while others will be irrational. Being able to manage your fears will allow you to overcome them. Make a plan in order to address your fears but make your decisions based on what you want your outcome to be. You shouldn’t allow fear to decide your fate.
Stick to what you decide. Practice living with your decisions. Consistency is key in accomplishing any goal. If you practice sticking to your choices with the smaller things in life, it can have a huge impact on the bigger things.
Listen to your gut. You institution is your internal gps system. It uses past experiences and cues from yourself and your environment to make a decision. It happens so quickly that it doesn’t register on a conscious level. Everyone has one. It’s goal is to always protect you. Our “sixth sense” has all the answers, we just need to listen.
Have confidence that you win either way. Whatever decision you make, rely on the knowledge that even if you fail you will learn from the experience. You will jump over whatever hurdle comes your way and be better prepared for it. This helps you to make decisions from a place of strength and not fear.
Stop thinking, just do it. No more planning or worrying, make a decision. Let the outcomes be what they will be. Have faith in all the steps you are taking to make clear decisions.
The hallmark of success is the ability to make clear, decisive decisions quickly. Being decisive will save you time and energy. Know that indecision is a choice in and an of itself. You will have more confidence if you make choices and stick by them. No matter the outcome.