Everyone on the planet is blessed to be the hero of their own tale. A story that has taken them from one place to another, and then finally exactly where they stand right now in their life. Although we are a culture based upon storytelling; sometimes people are afraid to tell their story for fear that others do not want to hear. "Don't think about the past", "Move On", "That happened a longtime ago," or better yet "I've heard that before " are strong expressions that can influence you not to share. But your story is powerful. It's the one thing that can help to save the world. It's the most powerful medicine to heal your pain, the best teacher for learning lessons, and the best way to communicate to others that they are not alone. Your story needs to be told.
I was recently talking to a friend, and yet again I was sharing my story. And instead of listening to my story, my friend began to tell her own. As I was telling her things, she was responding to what I was saying with her own lived experiences. Comparing my narrative to hers. How frustrating to tell your story and have others take what you have gone through so personally, critique it as if it was their own, and not validate your experience? As the conversation was wrapping up I could hear the judgement in her voice. The judgement that I still cannot let go of my past. For a moment I was embarrassed. "Why can't I get over it and move on?" But just as the words were flying out of my mouth, a realization came over me. My story is my story to tell. I don't have to get over anything because it is my truth. Now let's not confuse "my truth" with "the truth." We are not talking about people who are using their opinions to create false realities. We are talking about the healing power in telling others the unfolding aspects of your personal narrative.
Every time you tell your story, someone bears witness to it. Whether you have gone through difficulties, failures, or sad journeys, the value in letting someone hear your pain is immeasurable. There is so much someone can gain from the knowledge you possess. Those failures, difficulties, sad tales, and painful secrets are what makes you human. They are the steps leading to your liberation. Your chance to live a authentic, honest, sincere, and open life.
In a world where we feel divided, hearing others stories allows us to realize that we are not alone. The pain that we bear, the confusion we experience, the doubt we place upon ourselves is something everyone can understand. And through those stories we learn of the multiple ways to heal. I love hearing others stories. That's what rings true for me. I respect people more if they have survived, lost, or discovered something. This allows me to learn more about them and more about me.
In order to feel the full benefits of telling your story, you must make sure not to hold anything back. You must unapologetically tell your truth, stripping off the mask that all of us often hide behind. People connect to honesty, watering down your story creates a watered down version of you. Be proud of your imperfections, by hiding them, you may miss out on the special human connection you feel when you expose yourself. That connection that leads to intimacy, and unconditional love.
So many people spend their lives not telling their story, singing their song, writing their poem. There is no story that's been told a million times, no story too dark, and no story too boring to have a place in the collection of the human experiences. Our stories expose who we are so that me can make the world a better place. Know that it could be your story that is the catalyst to a new idea, a bold revolution, or the birth of a nation.