I recently had a conversation with a friend regarding goals. I was telling her that I was no longer obsessing over my goals. "But you do have goals" she said. I could hear a little bit of disapproval in her voice. America's fixation on goal setting is found everywhere. From best-selling books, podcasts, tv shows, and thousand dollar retreats, goals are sold as the beginning of attaining the life you deserve. Goals = Happiness. But we all know this is not true. You can write down every goal you have in your mind but it does not mean it will come to pass. My decision to give up making goals my everyday focal point is because I have now learned the power of surrender. This doesn't mean I don't have goals, it's just that I am no longer obsessed with whether or not a goal comes to fruition exactly as I have it planned in my mind. Having spent many years coming up with goals, trying to decide how to pursue them, and intermittently achieving them; goals are a big deal. Nothing is more disappointing than working hard toward a goal and not accomplishing it. One of the biggest lessons I have learned is the art of letting go. Here are tips to learn to let go and relax.
1. Embrace the Unknown. Most of life is unpredictable and the beauty of life is not to be afraid of the future.
2. Learn to Adapt. Let go of the outcome you deem to be best.
3. Go with the Flow. When people surrender control they tend to be more calm and at peace. You will have more control over a situation if you come from a perspective of surrender rather than control. Although easier said than done, this can be done by shifting your mindset and having confidence in everything ending well.
Albert Einstein once said that, “The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.”