I was on the phone with my Life Coach. Yes, I indeed have a Life Coach. And she asked me to perform a exercise answering one simple question. What shows up when you do? Before talking with her, I had never even considered such a query. I was then encouraged to ask some of the most important people around me. And as the list of amazing qualities started to flood in on my phone, it dawned on me that I wasn't exactly living in my essence. I actually didn't even know what it was. The irony is that all the traits others saw in me, I would not have written down for myself. I knew in that moment, that no matter what happened in life, I was going to live my true essence. No matter the pain I experienced, the disappointment I have seen or the confusion I bear, that finding out about my essence, is a top priority.
What is Essence?
The essence my Life Coach was referring to, is an energy. The life force within all of us, that makes us exclusively who we are. Essence is the core nature or important qualities within each human being. It is also called your "soul" or "spirit". And although your mind is apart of your essence, it is not exactly our minds at all. This force has nothing to do with how you were raised, who has influenced you in your life or what has happened to you. There is a truth about you that stands no matter what your story is.
Improving your life comes with strengthening your connection to this energy. I had a revelation that I wanted to move through life in the fullest expression of my essence. This lesson was recently challenged when I met someone new. Instead of moving from essence, I built as many walls around myself as I could. I wanted to make sure that I was never hurt again and I had the upper hand. Even before the person was in my life in any significant way. What makes it even more paradoxical is that openness was one of the qualities listed in my essence activity. So why wasn't I open when meeting this new person?
Past experiences can stop us from acting in a way that is true to our essence. What I learned from that experience is that people treat you the way you allow them to treat you. When you are true to who you are, then you can take comfort in the fact that there was nothing you could do to stop another person's behaviour. How they choose to act in a situation is their issue to bear. So for instance, if your essence is unconditional love and you showed it to a significant other but they still ended the relationship. That has more to do with their ability to receive or acknowledge unconditional love, than it does with your ability to give it. Even if the situation leaves you heart broken.
Moving from essence lifts a huge weight off of your shoulders because then you can begin to identify the people and actions that align with your values. When you are uncertain about whether a person or situation is coming from your essence, ask yourself; Would an infinite being truly choose this? Am I moving from my essence?
Being aware of your essence does not stop people from hurting you. Because people are often looking out for their best interests, they engage in activity that consciously or unconsciously may hurt others. Knowing your essence helps you to live an authentic life. It minimizes you having regrets because you understand what is serving you and what is not.
Essence Take Away
Take the time to hone in on your essence. It is the engine in which our souls revolve around. To embrace your essence is to never work against yourself. Your essence does not need to change or be altered. It is the amazing, unidentifiable, universal magic that makes you uniquely "you".