I think the desire to always better your life is admirable. It’s around this time of year that we put more emphasis on our plan for our future by creating our New Year’s resolutions. Want to lose weight? Make more money, or fall in love? This is the time to manifest those dreams. But just like it is positive to make intentions for your life, making a resolution is a catch 22. While everyone is encouraging you to set new objective for 2019, it’s also imperative to understand why it’s easy to set a plan that never gets accomplished. Here are six reasons why achieving resolutions are harder than you think.
Changing your behavior is not that simple. Our behaviors are the product of a combination of personality, temperament, attitudes, thoughts, feelings, and values. Our learned experiences influence us on both a conscious and subconscious level. They have deep origins that reach far back in our human experience. Sometimes it takes great work to uncover what motivates our true actions.
It’s not even your goal to begin with. Deciding that you want to try the new Keto diet? Or wait, did you want to go take Yoga classes? Get rid of coffee? Often times we hear other people say their goals and believe that we should do the same. But if it is not something you are truly inspired to do, you will not be able to sustain the action. Stick with the goals that have meaning in your life, because when times get tough, you will have a bigger motivation to get you through.
We have no plan. It doesn’t matter how many resolutions you make, if you don’t have a plan to achieve them, it will be harder to get them done. It takes on average 66 days, a little over two months for us to make habitats automatic in our brain. But behavior, our personal beliefs, and life circumstances can change it anywhere from 18 days to 254 days. Having a plan will help reinforce the action while overcoming the obstacles.
Our resolutions are broad and large. “I am going to eat better” or “I am going to exercise more” are not specific enough. Hence why a couple months later they fall by the waist side. When you are more specific for example, I want to lose 10 lbs. You are more likely to accomplish it because it is a clear aim.
Motivation isn’t real. People are always saying that after they do this, then they will do that. Motivation is not something that you magically wait for when everything in your life is perfect. Motivation comes after you take action. After you write the first page of your book, after you go for a 5 mile run, after you write your proposal. Take action now on the things that you want in life. Waiting for inspiration is like waiting for a shooting star, you never know when it’s coming. The more you live in the world, the more the world will inspire you.
Timing is everything or Not. Saying you are going to make $100,000 in six months or workout for six days a week may work for some but most people going from 0 to 100 is not realistic. You are more likely to achieve your goals one small step at a time. If it takes you twice as long to attain them it’s still progress. And it stands to last longer because you have incorporated it better in your everyday life.
There’s nothing wrong with using this time to reflect on where you have been and were you are going in your life. Bringing in the new year is a great time to do just that. But remember that each year that passes is truly a blessing. And the journey to be better will be continuous, not only in the year to come but for the rest of your life. Keep your resolutions clear, realistic, and attainable for you. If you didn’t make last years intention try it again this year. For success comes from consistency, discipline, patience, and drive.