I remember for the longest time it felt as if I was always chasing what I wanted. I would come across people who would magically fall into their dream job, relationship, or house. And I would always think to myself…WTF?!?!? I felt like for me, there was always a hill to climb, a battle to be fought, or a problem to solve. Until, I had had enough. So I made the decision, that I should have made a long time ago, that if something was meant for me, then it would come into my life with more ease. Not that I wouldn’t state my intentions or go after my dreams, but I was going to do so not with my own ego but, the support of the Universe. See, if it felt like the greater Universe wasn’t working a long side of me, then it was a sign that I needed to abort the mission. How would I know if the Universe was working a long side of me? Easy, when I made a step the next step would appear. Recently, I have been contemplating a move to NYC. I had finally found a reason outside of just pure desire to live in New York City. If there was any opportunity to live in the Big Apple, this was going to be it. On the one hand, I am super excited to live in one of the greatest cities on Earth, on the other, New York is ridiculously expensive and has massive income inequality issues. So while it is enticing to live in a great city with so much activity, one can’t help but think, it’s a city meant for the uber wealthy. So I started looking for places to live. One after one, I would see apartments in my price range that were small, dark, and ugly. So much so, that I wondered why the New York citizens haven’t caused a major protest already? What I saw as average or what I was accustomed to living in, was triple the price than what I saw even in places like Los Angeles. Under my new philosophy, it was a clear sign that it was not the right circumstances to move under. Disappointed, I waited and was at peace with my decision. I was not going to force my way into anything anymore no matter how much I wanted it. But what I would do is always look for the opportunity. Then one day it happened. The universe presented an opportunity in which I found an apartment that would make me happy and my move to NYC worth it. See the greater lesson is not to stop striving or planning but to do so by taking advantage of the opportunities that present themselves. Not by forcing yourself into situations that ultimately may not serve you. It can be hard sometimes to figure out what those are, but with patience and time you will figure it out. The first clue is that your sacrifice is worth it. The next step is to your benefit to take. It is a move in the right direction for your ultimate goal. It doesn’t put you in a precarious circumstance. It allows you to thrive and plan for the next step even if you don’t know what that is. This ease didn’t happen over night. I have actually spent more time forcing a relationship or demanding I follow these rules to get to this place, or following other people’s advice even when I knew it wasn’t for me. But as you develop and grow, you start to realize that life is a mix of intention and happenstance. Sometimes more taking advantage of opportunities that it is of demanding something happen in your life. Yes, it is a fine line. One that we all have to discover for ourselves. But when you do, it is the greatest gift for peace of mind.