This morning I woke up in a sweat. I had been tossing and turning the entire night having a very vivid nightmare about my current situation. Let me catch you up. I recently moved from Los Angeles to North Carolina. While the move in and of itself is a culture shock due to the social differences of each coast; I am also adjusting to the change in my personal life. I went from living as a single girl in the city to a single adult living with her parents in the suburbs. The two existences couldn't be more different. But that's not what was bothering me. I couldn't help but feel stuck, aggravated, and terrified. I had voluntarily moved back home but I didn't fully understand how attached I was to the life I had before. And while I knew I needed to be here to grow and take my next step in life. I started to hyperventilate just thinking about where I was in life versus all the things I wanted to accomplish. Particularly because I cannot predict how everything I want is going to happen. So of course I was in panic mode.
It got me thinking...
How can you make the best of a bad situation?
1. Confront your feelings. Lost your job, boyfriend broke up with you, or so broke you can't see straight? How do you make the best of any of these situations? You let your emotions out. Feelings don't go away. If they are left unresolved they can grow and manifest themselves in other areas in your life. Remember there are no bad emotions only bad ways to handle a situation. So sob, yell, pound your fist to the sky. The first step to making your situation better is to accept and process your emotions.
2. Accept the situation you are in. Once you have a handle on your emotions you can begin to acknowledge your circumstances. The past cannot be changed. Although you can examine what behaviors in the past might have led up to this point, there is no point in waisting time playing out what could have happened if you chose different decisions. If there are lessons to be learned you will easily and quickly identify them. Don't beat yourself up. Normally once you have come to terms with the situation you are in, it's time to move on.
3. Put your situation in perspective. Ask yourself if the situation that you are in will matter a year from now. If you answer yes, then come up with a long term plan to make change in your life. But most likely the answer will be no. You can work yourself out of any situation, one step at a time.
4. Be flexible. Often you have to throw out your plans and go with the flow of life. Being able to do this will enable you to be prepared for whatever might come your way. Yes it may not be ideal, but sometimes things turn out better than what we have planned.
5. Never lose hope. Hope is the energy that brings you through the darkest hour. If you are in a bad situation, it is the feeling of hope that will provide solutions. If you lose it then there is no incentive to change your bad situation. Hope does not require anything but the willingness to believe.
Everyone finds themselves in bad situations throughout their journey in life. Make a choice to accept failure for the learning lesson that it is. Don't let failure or temporary circumstances hold you back from the greater purpose you have in your life. I have to remind myself everyday that I can change my circumstances. As long as I don't allow spiritual defeat to win. Sometimes you are not meant to know how things are going to work out. But that's okay because all you need is the understanding that they will.